Motherhood and the Me-Monster
April 8th, 2010 by Kristi Stephens
Epidural or natural childbirth?
Nursing or bottle feeding?
Pacifier or no pacifier?
Cloth or disposable?
Co-sleeping or in the nursery?
Vaccinate or not?
The debates swirl. The amount of heated discussion about these topics has fascinated me since I first became pregnant with AG. I have my opinions about all of the above, and I’m sure you do, too. Add in competitive-feeling discussions about when our children slept through the night, started solid food, potty trained, etc… and it makes me want to avoid other mothers, to be perfectly honest!
My question is: why are we all so angry about everything? Why can so many of these discussions turn hateful and petty?
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April 14th, 2010 at 11:09 pm
Praise the Lord for your site! I am doing a research paper on the responsibility of parents to disciple their children vs. the church and have enjoyed reading your perspective. As far as the issues you stated in being angry moms I completely agree. I am a mother of 10 and have had my share of heated debates over those very things. After seeing the futiliy of it all I can sincerely say “I have learned to be content.” Many mother’s identity is in their children and they are afraid if they don’t do it exactly right it will reflect on them as a person. I realize in your state of mind right not hormones may not allow you to detach yourself emotionally but if you could just smile at them and say “Thank you very much. I will pray about that”, that should put water on their flames of anger. We have done it all and no method is better than the other. If anything I can say I have a great crop of guinea pigs. Save your energy and focus on the important stuff such as discipling him/her. Do what you need to for your family because in the light of eternity it won’t matter if you used cloth or disposible, breast of bottle fed, slept in the same bed or in their own. Time is too short to have anxiety over such trivial things. It is completly between you and the Lord.
God bless,
Sydney Reno
April 15th, 2010 at 8:00 am
Sydney – thank you so much for taking the time to share your experience and perspective!!!!!!!
May 9th, 2010 at 8:57 am
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